Stop sexualizing my body stop shaming my body stop policing my body
YOU ARE PERFECT
If you get attention, you hate it. If you don’t get attention, you hate it. If people wanna fuck you, you hate it. If people don’t wanna fuck you, you hate it. If people are decent, you look for hidden intentions underneath their demeanor because everyone else MUST have SOME sort of reaction to everything you do, right? If people aren’t decent, then they’ve proved you right, everyone’s a scumbag. Truth is, if you’re such a weak person to let what other people say affect you so much, you don’t deserve to have such a strong opinion. Do what the hell you want to do and just ignore the crap that people give you. Wear what you want, don’t shave, have people tell you that you’re the finest piece of ass that side of the hemisphere and live comfortably. Liberate yourself, for yourself. Shut out the sexualising, policing and shaming because that’s all it takes. Instead of just recycling the same lines over and over again. Leaving you feel unheard and that you’re getting nowhere, that will only frustrate you more and push you into this stereotype that makes you feel so uncomfortable. Us men say what we want, we wear what we want, we expose what we want and that’s okay because we do it without caring for anything else. So why should you? That’s all I have to say on the matter. Good luck on your journey to an equal sense of ignorance and self-expression.
“Us men say what we want, we wear what we want, we expose what we want and that’s okay because we do it without caring for anything else. ”
That’s because you and men like you have had hundreds and hundreds of years of society holding your hand, giving you power, giving you privilege, giving you wealth and giving you every opportunity over women, POCs, and everyone else who isn’t a male, heterosexual and able-bodied person.
Don’t give me this fake empowerment bullshit when you clearly do not have a single shred of an idea about my experience as a woman or anyone else’s experience as a person on the fringe of the heteronormative white majority.
You literally just admitted to not caring about anything or anyone else.
You are part of the problem.
Dudebro, I think they’ve tried the whole “just ignoring it” angle. It doesn’t work. It’s like telling a person who’s being bullied to “Just ignore them, don’t give them a reaction”.
In these situations there are at least two parties involved, and it’s unreasonable to expect one party to do all the changing.
It turns out that *gasp*, YOU might have to change the way you interact with people. Maybe you should start to consider the feelings of people who are not you. If you don’t want to, that’s your right. But that makes you an asshole, and you are making the world a lot less pleasant place to live in.
But hey, at least then YOU don’t have to do anything.
To the men who have told me that I’m overreacting and “it’s the 21st century women are equal now”
Note that the “women make only 77.5 cents for every dollar that men earn” statistic applies only to white women. Women of color make significantly less.
- Black women make about $0.68 to a man’s dollar.
- Latina women make about $0.58 to a man’s dollar.
Feminism isn’t over, not by a longshot.
A version for tumblr that can be read without opening a new tab, since plenty of people would scroll past this story otherwise.
The bravest woman on Earth.
She was treated at the hospital where I work, this makes me immensely proud.
THIS. Everything about this.
I have these little spikes of female rage sometimes.
I have these little moments of, ‘really, we still have to listen to this, really?’ They’re usually quick. They’re usually gone fast.
I do wonder, however, why it seems like every single male I follow thinks that the “Hawkeye Initiative” has gone ‘too far.’ I don’t want to point out posts, because I respect every single one of these guys. And honestly, I wouldn’t be following them if I didn’t want them to follow me. I like their views, they’re definately entitled to their opinions. I don’t think any of them are being made ‘uncomfortable’ by the intent of the redraws.
But when as a group a rational, intelligent, fandom savy group of guys goes, “well, it’s defeating the purpose if you sexualize men instead of sexualizing women,” I kind of wonder what they’re seeing that I’m not.
Man: Hello, I’d like to report a mugging.
Officer: A mugging, eh? Where did it take place?
Man: I was walking by 21st and Dundritch Street and a man pulled out a gun and said, “Give me all your money.”
Officer: And did you?
Man: Yes, I co-operated.
Officer: So you willingly gave the man your money without fighting back, calling for help or trying to escape?
Man: Well, yes, but I was terrified. I thought he was going to kill me!
Officer: Mmm. But you did co-operate with him. And I’ve been informed that you’re quite a philanthropist, too.
Man: I give to charity, yes.
Officer: So you like to give money away. You make a habit of giving money away.
Man: What does that have to do with this situation?
Officer: You knowingly walked down Dundritch Street in your suit when everyone knows you like to give away money, and then you didn’t fight back. It sounds like you gave money to someone, but now you’re having after-donation regret. Tell me, do you really want to ruin his life because of your mistake?
Man: This is ridiculous!
Officer: This is a rape analogy. This is what women face every single day when they try to bring their rapists to justice.